You walk into a room and can't remember why. You lose words mid-sentence. You miss appointments you would never have forgotten before. Or, more unsettling, there are whole periods of your life you can barely recall. Memory problems are one of the most frightening and least discussed effects of grief, trauma and depression. For some people, ADHD is part of the picture too, sometimes undiagnosed until adulthood. Each affects memory in its own way, and they often overlap. The sh

"I should have seen it coming." "I should have been there." "Why am I still here when they aren't?" "I don't deserve to feel better." Guilt is one of the heaviest things people carry after loss and trauma, and one of the least talked about. It can be quiet and constant, or it can arrive at 3am with a list of everything you did wrong. In depression, it can spread until it feels like proof that you are fundamentally bad. Guilt shows up differently in grief, trauma and depressio

After a loss, many people quietly wonder whether what they're feeling is still grief or something more. They're tired all the time. They've stopped seeing friends. They cry without warning, or can't cry at all. Is this normal grief? Or has it become depression? It's a fair question, and not always an easy one to answer. Grief and depression share many symptoms, and they can exist at the same time. But they are different experiences, and knowing the difference can help you und

"I should be feeling something." People say this to me after a funeral where they didn't cry. After an assault they describe as if it happened to someone else. After months of depression where nothing, not even the things they used to love, seems to reach them. Emotional numbness can be frightening. It can make you feel cold, broken or disconnected from your own life. But numbness is rarely the absence of feeling. More often, it's a sign that your mind is protecting you from

Choosing a psychologist is a personal decision. Before you book, it helps to know how someone works, who they work with, and what sessions will actually feel like. This page explains my approach, so you can decide whether it feels like the right fit for you. Who I work with I work with adults who are living with the effects of trauma, depression and complicated grief. Often, people come to me with more than one of these at once: a loss that was also a shock, a depression that

Most of us expect grief to hurt. What we don't expect is for it to frighten us. Yet many people describe the weeks after a death not as sadness but as shock. The heart pounds every time the phone rings. The same moment replays over and over. Sleep comes in broken pieces. Then, months later, the fear quietens and something heavier moves in: a flatness, a sense that nothing will ever feel right again. This isn't a random collection of reactions. It's a recognisable path, from l